Connect and Commit Review by James Taylor
Connect and Commit: Taking Things to the Next Level of Commitment is a book (divided into three volumes, downloadable in pdf form) about relationships, written by dating and relationship expert Amy Waterman.
She wrote it to help you grow to become the kind of person who someone would want to commit to. And at the same time the book equips you to go through the various stages of a relationship until you naturally reach a point of long-term commitment that can be maintained for a lifetime.
What the Book is About
A key idea contained in the book is that every relationship which reaches long-term commitment will go through a series of six predictable stages that most people aren’t fully aware of: from falling in love where you see the other person through rose-colored glasses, right through to the final stage of building a relationship that is strong enough to withstand all the challenges that will try to break it apart.
According to Waterman, a relationship faces new challenges at each stage which can result in the relationship ending. For example, if there is not enough attraction at the falling in love stage, a relationship will not form – you might go on a couple of dates with a man and then find that there is not enough chemistry present for it to progress any further.
While most people would be aware of this first stage (falling in love), many would not be aware of the second stage – reality check. Here the magic of the relationship wears off and you see the other person for who they really are – someone who is far from perfect and who is different from you in a number of ways.
A lot of people mistake this for not being compatible with the other person and as a result they end the relationship. But for a relationship to reach a stage of long-term commitment, this is a stage that the relationship must move through.
What Waterman does is take you in-depth through the skills and strategies which you will need to navigate through the testing waters of each of these six stages.
In addition to all of this, the author takes you through a number of different topics relevant to relationships and commitment, to give you the best possible chance of creating a loving and committed relationship that will stand the test of time.
Waterman develops criteria for choosing the right person to enter a committed relationship with. She helps you to evaluate whether a particular person has the ability to commit to you (rather than just wasting your time). And related to this, she tells you how to deal with a “commitment-phobe”.
In regard to what is going on inside you, Waterman discusses the right mindsets that you require for someone to want to commit to you. She tells you one key reason why people with all the right skills to be a fantastic, loving partner keep getting passed over when it comes to committed relationships. Also, she outlines five deadly mistakes that will kill your chances of moving a relationship to long-term commitment.
As the subtitle suggests, this book has been primarily written for someone who is currently in a relationship and who wants to take it to a greater level of commitment. However, the material is still completely applicable to someone who desires to be in a committed relationship, but who is currently single.
In fact, Connect and Commit is the kind of book that it would be best to read before you are in a relationship, rather than when you are in a relationship – so that you know what to expect and how to handle things, in order to avoid making mistakes that could ruin a potentially great relationship.
This book is not about tricky strategies to make your partner want you more (eg. flirting with other men while your man is with you). It is not about causing fear and insecurity in him so that he commits to you in order to prevent you from leaving him. And it is not about trying to manipulate or coerce him into committing to you through guilt and ultimatums.
What Connect and Commit will teach you is that these sorts of approaches will have the opposite effect to what they are intended to achieve – your partner will leave you and find someone else, instead of committing to you.
The Overall Verdict
To round off this Connect and Commit review, my opinion is that this book offers really exceptional value. The three volumes which the book is split into sum to a total of over 340 pages of absorbing reading and self-reflection.
The book covers many important topics on relationships and commitment in extreme detail so that you have a roadmap for attracting the right man for you and are able to naturally move towards stages of greater and greater commitment with him – without having to force the issue. The material will help you to become the kind of woman that he will want to commit to.
Another reason why the book is such great value is that it comes with a number of valuable bonuses, which include a full audio version of the book (MP3) so that you can go through the material while you are doing other things.
In addition to this, there are also audio interviews with other dating and relationship experts such as: Marie Forleo (How To Reignite & Maintain Long-Term Attraction), Richard Wheeler (Your Commitment Questions Answered), Renee Piane (Communication Secrets For A Long-Term Relationship), and others. There is even an unadvertised bonus that is not mentioned on the sales page, although I probably shouldn’t mention this!
Finally, Connect and Commit comes with a 60-day satisfaction guarantee to ensure that you are happy with your purchase. If not, you can claim a full refund of the purchase price. I think this is excellent, because it shows that the author believes completely in the value that the book will offer you the reader.
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