I often hear single women complain that it’s so hard to meet decent men who are also single.
Yes, they meet some guys through their social contacts, but normally they see the same old guys over and over again. And most of these guys are already in a relationship, or not the kind that are overly desirable.
Then there is the bar and club scene, with rowdy drunk guys and players all over the place, who only want to bed them.
What is a girl to do? What is the best way as to how to meet men?
1. Go to Where Single, Desirable Men Are
The best way how to meet men is that you first need to put yourself in high probability places, where there are most likely to be single and desirable men who are compatible with you. Have a read of my article Where to Meet Men for some great ideas that you may not have thought of.
2. Be the Most Attractive That You Can Be
The second step is that you need to be the most attractive woman that you can be, by looking your best physically, being full of self-esteem, and presenting yourself as happy, confident, intelligent, independent and feminine.
3. Encourage Men To Approach You
The third step in how to meet men is in encouraging men to approach you … and they will. Let them be the ones to do the hard work, if possible.
When you put yourself in the places where men are and present yourself as an attractive woman, you will certainly be noticed. All you now need to do is give the guys a little bit of help by indicating that you’re available and interested.
The most simple and easy way to do this is to make eye contact with them, smile and then hold it for a second or two. Then look away and hopefully the guy will come over and talk to you – if he’s man enough.
4. Make An Effort To Approach Guys Yourself (in a low-risk, indirect way)
But if there is one particular guy that you really like the look of, who you probably won’t meet again, you can always do a non-direct approach yourself.
Example 1: Party
Let’s say that you are at a friend’s party and see a man whom you would like to meet. Go over to where he is and say something like, “Hey, are you enjoying the party? My name’s _______ by the way”, or “I don’t think I’ve met you before. I’m _______”.
Through doing this you are opening up a conversation with him, indicating some interest, and if he is not interested in you or turns out to not be interesting himself, you can just say, “Well it’s been nice meeting you.”, and then move on. It shouldn’t look like a humiliating rejection to those around you if he isn’t interested, because you were just being social!
Example 2: Gym
In environments that are less social, and where it would not be so appropriate to approach a man like this, you can still approach a guy – but in a different way.
Let’s say that at your gym you see a guy who you like. What you can do is go over to the machine next to him and then ask him a question about how to use it.
As you probably know, men like to solve problems and help damsels in distress. So this should be an easy one for you.
But the harder part is when he finishes giving you his advice. He may just walk away after he has done his good deed for the day. So you need to thank him, and then either introduce yourself or say something like “You must have been working out for quite a few years”. This will give him the chance to keep talking and alert him to the fact that you don’t want the interaction to end there.
After this, let him lead the conversation, and this is a test of his level of interest and his ability to talk, be social, and be interesting at the same time.
Example 3: Lunchtime walk
As another example, say that you have left your downtown office at lunchtime, and are going for a walk and you see a man who catches your eye for whatever reason. The chances are that if you don’t make a move, you will never see him again.
You could make eye contact and smile at him as he walks by. But because you are both on the move, this makes it much harder for him to approach than when the two of you are going to be in the same place for an extended period of time.
The best thing to do is to stop him and ask him for directions to something. For example, “Excuse me, …… could you tell me the nearest place to buy a postage stamp?” Then if you are still interested in him, follow up in a similar way to the example above.
Example 4: Bookstore
A final example could involve you seeing a man at a bookshop, browsing through a book. You could go over to him and ask him about the book, since it looks interesting. Or you could ask him where to find a particular type of book eg. “Hey do you know the part of the store where they have mystery novels?” Then you can follow up as with the previous examples if you want.
Okay so those are a few of my best ideas on how to meet men. I believe that if you put them into practice, you should have some of success.
But to maximize this success you need to make sure that you present yourself as the most desirable woman that you can be. In order to do this, I recommend that you take a look at my book What Men Want.
In this book, I teach you a number of key things that you must implement into your life so that great men just cannot stop themselves from approaching you and asking you out.
Without this knowledge, you will probably have some degree of success with men by putting yourself in the right places to meet them. However, it is far less likely that men who have a lot of options with women will go out of their way to meet you and ask you out – or be receptive to you if you approach them.
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